Leah Bartos, Mrs. New York America

Everyday Etiquette-Making an Entrance

Welcome to my new column Everyday Etiquette. My name is Leah Bartos. I am a certified corporate etiquette and international protocol consultant. As a successful business woman and entrepreneur, I started my own consulting company where I train individuals on business, social and dining etiquette. So why am I writing for Tiara Magazine? Well, in October 2011, I was crowned Mrs. New York America 2012. I believe that proper etiquette is incredibly important for every person to possess and even more importantly for women who are seeking to obtain a title or who currently hold a title. As title holders, or aspiring title holders we are constantly in the public eye. We are role models for children, young men and women and adults. Everyone is watching what we do and how we carry ourselves. I want to share with you some of the social graces that I have learned to ensure that you always make a positive impression on the people you encounter each and every day.

So, let me ask you a question. What is etiquette? By definition the word etiquette means “conventional requirements as to social behavior; proprieties of conduct as established in any class or community or for any occasion”. My personal definition of etiquette, in the simplest form, is about making the other people around you feel as comfortable as possible. Etiquette is a way in which we project a positive image, confidence and authority.

Today’s topic, ‘Making an Entrance’, is about the proper way to enter a room with elegance and style. As title holders we are all very involved in our community and active in supporting various charities. That means there could be many events that you are asked to attend where there will be a gathering of people. You may only know one or two people, or even possibly everyone, regardless, how you enter the room for that charity event or meeting is very important. It sets the stage for how people perceive you as a person and titleholder. So how do you enter a room and portray confidence, poise and grace? Here are the dos and don’ts.

 Do’s

  1. Make sure you are On Time for the event.
  2. Dress appropriately for the event or meeting. Remember you are representing a city, state or the country. You need to look pulled together, polished and sophisticated.
  3. Before you enter, make sure your shoulders are back and your head is held high with confidence, not cocky, there is a difference.
  4. When entering the room, walk in slowly with your head up, shoulders back and be sure to smile.
  5. Step to the side of the door and pause for a moment to assess the room. Take notice of where the tables and or seats are located, food and drinks and if you see anyone you know or important people you want to be sure to meet.
  6. As you walk through the room, smile and greet the people you make eye contact with as you walk by. Smile and say “hello, it’s good to see you”, or just simply “good morning”, “good afternoon” or “good evening” depending on the time of day.

 

Don’ts

  1. Don’t be late.
  2. Don’t walk in with clothing that looks disheveled or hair that’s windblown.
  3. Don’t walk in with your head down and shoulders slumped.
  4. Don’t walk in while talking on the cell phone. If you have to make a phone call or finish a phone conversation, do it in private before entering the room.
  5. Don’t walk in while digging through your purse or bag looking for: tickets, lipstick, mints, phone, etc.
  6. Don’t walk in so fast that it looks like you were running late and in a hurry to get there.

I hope these tips help you enter a room with confidence at your next event or meeting.  Stay tuned next month for tips on “How to Mingle and Make it Memorable” at parties and social gatherings.                   And remember to practice exceptional Etiquette…Everyday!